Dr Rich Melheim posits the idea that 1) your teenager’s cell phone actually belongs to you (if you pay for it) and 2) the quantity of your teenagers uninterrupted sleep on any given night is up to the least healthy person with your teenager’s cell number. (Check out his book, “Holding Your Family Together”)
The conclusion he draws points to the importance of sleep in a teenager’s life. Frankly, they don’t get enough. One of the reasons they don’t get enough sleep (and there are many) is the least healthy person in their circle of friends that is texting them at 2:00am.
The solution? The cell phone, that is to say YOUR cell phone (the one that YOU pay for), goes into your possession at 8:00pm until the next morning. You can say something like, “At 8:00pm please bring me MY phone that I give to you to use.” Gasp! Heresy, I know.
When it comes down to it, what are the implications of that? Your teenager will be mad at you certainly. Won’t be the first time and won’t be the last. It won’t likely be forever. Will they be cast out of their circle of friends? Maybe, maybe not though if they are it does call into question the circle of friends they’re in. Will they have a chance at uninterrupted sleep? Much moreso than if their phone is with them.
If we think about it a minute, there really isn’t so much of a downside to a teenager not having their phone on overnight. And here are some definite pluses.
Where do you land on this idea?